It’s here! After months of writing, collaborating and pouring my heart into every page –
Menopause Wingman: The Emotional Handbook for Men is now published and available worldwide on Amazon. 🎉
A straight-talking, warm-hearted handbook written specifically for the husbands/partners of women going through menopause. While there is no shortage of support for women, the people standing beside them have largely been forgotten. Until now.
What is Menopause Wingman?
Menopause Wingman is a practical, emotionally intelligent handbook for the husbands, wives and partners of women going through menopause. Written with honesty, humour and genuine compassion, it helps partners understand what is really happening during menopause and – crucially – how to show up in a way that brings couples closer rather than pulling them apart.
It draws on the real voices and experiences of partners and husbands from around the world who bravely shared their stories so that others would know they are not alone.
I am deeply honoured that the foreword was written by Loretta Dignam, Founder and CEO of The Menopause Hub, Forbes 50 Over 50 honouree and Ireland’s leading menopause advocate — who said:
“We need male allies and supportive partners. Your book is part of my life’s mission.”
How did Menopause Wingman come to life?
The book was born from a single, unforgettable moment at an online speed networking event hosted by Conscious Creators.
I mentioned that I help women through the emotional aspects of menopause and a fellow attendee called Richard stopped me in my tracks.
“You should write a book for men,” he said. “If I’d had that, my marriage might have survived.”
In that same Zoom room sat Heather, a publisher. The pieces fell into place with the kind of synchronicity that feels less like coincidence
and more like inevitability. From that one conversation, Menopause Wingman was born.
The Audiobook is Coming!
And the exciting news doesn’t stop there! 🎙️
The audiobook version of Menopause Wingman is currently in production. The narration has been completed and editing is now underway. For everyone who prefers to listen rather than read – this one is for you! Release date coming very soon – watch this space!
Get Your Copy
Menopause Wingman is available now worldwide on Amazon: www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1958150614
If you know someone whose partner is navigating menopause, please share. It might be exactly what they have been waiting for.
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Our lives are filled with many different stresses, challenges and distractions. So easily we can get side-tracked with daily work and family routines/commitments that we forget to (or more importantly) don’t schedule time off. The more stressed we become, the more difficult it is to pull away. The harder we work, the more we start to come out of balance not only mentally, but physically, emotionally and spiritually. As our “to do list” increases, the more we get lost. It can take a while to find ourselves again.
Attending a weekend retreat gives us a chance to detach and unplug as we get away from work, TV, wifi, tablet and cell phone. Any amount of time we spend in nature will bring a sense of inner peace and refreshment to our mind and soul. When we have some fresh air, exercise and take in wonderful views our bodies feel renewed too.
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